What makes them feel loved?

Do you know what make your spouse feel loved? Do they know what makes you feel loved?
Have you asked them? Have they told you?

Too often we assume what makes the other feel loved or important and too often we get it wrong. Why? Because we assume we know and yet all we really have to do is ask and we will never have confusion again.

What if you had a literal list of things your spouse told you make them feel loved and important? You could wake up in the morning and look at the list of things you could do and then do them. Boom! Guaranteed affection! No guess work involved. It's all right on the list they made. It's almost like having an instruction manual for your spouse on how to make them feel loved. Can you imagine how many disappointments and even arguments that would resolve?

Well stop imagining and start doing.
Here is a date night assignment for you:
Forget the movie. Go to a quiet place, even check into a hotel if you have to, and make lists with each other. Talk about exactly what it is that makes you feel loved.
Do you feel love when he takes out the garbage?
Do you feel love when she makes your favorite breakfast?
Do you feel love when he let's you sleep in?
Do you feel love when she lets you watch the entire game with out interruption?

Name both the big and little things. Those things that take planning as well as those that can be done very quickly. Don't hold back!

Then take that list and place it somewhere it is easily accessible like a refrigerator or in the bathroom. Then it will work as a constant reminder as well as a guide.