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Monday, March 16, 2009

Experts want you to be more Proactive as opposed to Reactive!

In a new post from the couples section of Yahoo, 10 "Relationship Experts" give advice on how to keep your relationship strong. (I'm still wondering why no one called me!) Click here to read the entire article.
In it they mention things like, Take Turns Talking, Touch a Lot, Being Positive and Being a Good Date.
What I like about this article is it is not a "repair" article. It's a "prepare" article.
Too many people are reactive after a situation arises as opposed to being proactive in their lives. Especially when it comes to their relationships.

I have a friend who sells home security alarms. The system is free, cost nothing to install. The client is only responsible for a small mentoring fee once a month. However that fee will protect them from fire, break-in or a medical emergency. He sells the alarms door to door and it's tough. Not because the product isn't awesome, because most people don't feel the need for this protection until after the break in. Then they wish they had that protection. They wish they had been proactive now that they are being forced to be reactive.

It's the same in relationships. You can choose to read the books, practice the skills and even get the counceling you need now, while everything seems fine in your relationship. Therefore being proactive against any possible future issue. Or you can do nothing to cultivate and improve your relationship now, hoping issues or challenges never arise. (BTW- The latter is a fantasy)

Look at your relationship and find ways you can be more proactive in your relationship as opposed to reactive. It will definately help in the long run.